Boudoir Excuses: Busting the Myths Behind Boudoir

Boudoir Excuses

As a boudoir photographer, I wanted to share some of the most common boudoir excuses I’ve heard over the years. When we find ourselves in a place of anxiety or resistance, we tend to make excuses. We make excuses because at the end of the day, sometimes it’s easier to choose those excuses than to choose something that’s unfamiliar to us. And sometimes, life gets so busy we don’t even realize we are burying our deepest desires and needs under a pile of excuses. 

We make excuses not to love ourselves. We make excuses not to make better decisions about our health. These excuses can also sound like drop-offs and pick-ups for little ones. Doctor’s appointments. Anniversaries. Football games. After-school activities. Date nights. “I need to lose weight first.” Or, “I don’t have the extra cash.” And the list goes on!

Somehow we always find an excuse to put something or someone else above ourselves. 

I wanted to write this post to remind you that no matter what excuse sits in front of you, you are WORTHY of choosing something for yourself that refuels and empowers your womanhood. You are worthy of self-love.

Boudoir Excuse #1 – “I don’t have enough time for myself.”

I feel like this is one of THE most common boudoir excuses I hear from women as to why a session isn’t for them right now. 

If you had to ask yourself when was the last time you had a moment alone (and that doesn’t include the errand run to Target!) – do you think you could name it? 

I know it’s easier said than done, but if you aren’t taking care of your own needs, how are you going to meet the needs of everyone else?

And if I can be honest with you, I am the WORST at making sure I am giving myself mental health breaks and self-checkins. That’s why I think it’s so important to share this message with all of you because I am the QUEEN of saying “I don’t have enough time,” or “if only there were two of me then maybe I could do it all.” 

But sometimes, all I really need is to look myself in the mirror and say, “SLOW DOWN, LADY! Give yourself a break and breathe for a moment. You got this.” 

If we can believe in ourselves, it makes it SO much easier to believe in others – and I believe in YOU.

During a boudoir session, it almost feels like you can step out of your “noisy” life and into a place of quiet empowered peace. A space you and your photographer create together to showcase every SINGLE beautiful part of you that needs attention. Inside and out. 

If you need an excuse to take time for yourself, why not spend it in a one-on-one boudoir session where you’ll get the opportunity to completely own your empowered space? You’ll walk out oozing with confidence and feeling nothing but refreshed. 

Boudoir Excuse #2 – “I’m not where I want to be weight-wise” or “I don’t fit the media’s idea of a good enough size.”

Did you know that the body type you see every day in advertising as the “ideal” is possessed naturally by only 5% of American women? ONLY FIVE PERCENT! I will say this over and over (so, sorry not sorry if you’ve heard me say it before), BUT WHY do we think we need to be a certain size BEFORE we can love ourselves? 

Think of everything your body does for you. You guys go through a lot together. Whether we take the time to recognize that or not. So again, I’ll ask WHY do we feel the need to fit into a stranger’s messed-up idea of a perfect body BEFORE we can love our own? WHY are you comparing your size to everyone else, when no two people on this planet were made the same?

Don’t get me wrong, I think it’s amazing to have goals to better your health, but does that mean you have to hate the person staring back in the mirror as you work so hard to achieve them? Not at all! In fact, you should give them the biggest hug for being here with you every step of the way. Be proud of where you are so that you can be proud of where you’re going. 

Have a boudoir shoot to celebrate where you are NOW in your life journey. You can always come back for more when you reach those goals to celebrate how far you’ve come! No more boudoir excuses here!

Boudoir Excuse #3 – “I never feel sexy or sensual anymore so a boudoir shoot must not be for me.”

This excuse is actually the EXACT reason you SHOULD schedule your boudoir session right now.

As we grow up, many of us tend to lose touch with our femininity and sexuality due to outside influences on how we “should” be in order to be accepted by society. 

We have kids? Society says, “No more sexy for you. You’re a mother now.” 

We have a career? Society says, “No one will take you seriously if you ooze femininity.”

But I want you to know that it’s normal to WANT to feel sexy. It’s normal to WANT to embrace your femininity. It’s normal to want to step back into the empowered space of what it means to be a woman.

A great way to start this journey back to yourself is to have a boudoir session that is uniquely you, to ignite the spark that will lead you the rest of the way on your journey. Let us show you that spark is still very much inside of you!

P.S. if you are worried that you’ll HAVE to wear super sexy clothing or lingerie, let me remind you that this shoot is all about YOU. That means whatever you are comfortable in is sexy. If you’re feeling stuck on what to wear check out our guide here for some suggestions.

Boudoir Excuse #4 – “A boudoir shoot is an investment and I don’t have a lot right now.”

Yes, a boudoir shoot IS an investment. 

It’s an investment in yourself, well-being, and confidence!

If the price is holding you back (and you didn’t already know) we do offer payment plans that might work more for your budget.

In order to book your shoot, we require a $100 booking retainer and after you choose your package after your (kick-ass) session, you’ll have the opportunity to pick a plan that works best for you. 

If you have any questions about booking or our payment plans, and you’re ready to put those pesky boudoir excuses behind you, shoot us an email at and we are happy to answer your questions!




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